Learning To Find Your Worth in God: Affirmations and Encouragement

Today, I sit here on this fine quarantine morning, thinking of how our human nature can be so needy sometimes (am I right?! Lol.) I think we can agree that we all carry a genuine desire to feel good enough. Maybe for friends, for a relationship, etc. So we post accordingly, look accordingly, act accordingly, do accordingly. We want to truly know we are worthy, because deep down we all have a longing to be loved, to feel wanted.

But what happens when we look for the source of that to come solely from other people - to the point where we are dependent on them and our worth comes from their approval and recognition?

This week God gave me this fresh revelation that changed everything: 

People aren't designed to satisfy every longing you have. If that's who you look to, you would become dependent on them to fulfill you when they can't consistently like God does. What happens when they do, and it suddenly stops? 

What happens when a person fulfills you to the point where you love the promise more than the presence of God. I believe this is the state of our world today. But when all your emotional fulfillment comes from a human being, suddenly, they turn into an idol. They are taking the place where God, the solid rock and unchangeable God, should be. 

"People can't provide that natural consistency, but there is ONE who never leaves and never changes."

PURPOSE OF PEOPLE

I believe that God's intent for friendships and relationships are meant for the building of his kingdom and the building of each other.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

I believe we were made to strengthen each other with the gifts God has given us. To help and love one another. To be there as an encouragement in this journey of life. 

"As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another."
Proverbs 27:17

But not as the primary source of our emotional needs and validation. 

I believe God wants the state of our relationships to be where you find true fulfillment and worth in him, so you won't be solely dependent on the other person. So that we can truly serve God's purpose for friendships and relationships how he intended it to be. 

JESUS, THE FULFILLER OF EVERY LONGING

If you've ever struggled with just feeling wanted or good enough, I get you. I think I've spent a large chunk of my life wallowing in the insecurities tied to how I looked like and how I was... like that was a deciding factor to whether I was worthy. Worthy of being loved by others. The thing was, it always tied to people, gaining that validity from other people. If they gave me their time or attention. But that was it. If that lacked, I would lose my self worth. 

God had to reveal to me that I was looking for that in the wrong place. It wasn't the persons job to prove that to me, it was God's job. To speak my worth into me, to fill my cup. To ground me in him so I won't be hurt by other people.

In John 4:14, Jesus addresses that He is the true fulfiller:

"But whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life."

I believe God is saying today "Come to me thirsty. Come to me hungry. I was made to fulfill every single longing of yours. Your longing for someone to validate you, to want your presence, to hear you, to let you know you are good enough. Let me speak into you today. Just invite me in."

God is not just a mighty being that created the earth, but a loving Father. In Psalm 121, it says "he who watches over you will not slumber." God is always watching you, always with you, always wanting to love on you and spend time with you, his beloved child. Everything he made is good, he made you GOOD. He crafted you with his perfect hands, knitting you together in your mother's womb. (Psalm 139) No mistakes. God is very relational, just look at Jesus: he knew you, he loved you. 

God knows you and wants to love on you today. He wants his love to fulfill you completely.

I wrote some affirmations below that God has spoken over me in my times of longing, that I would love to share with you. Read them slow and think about them as spoken by your loving Heavenly Father over you. 

May you hear his voice resounding through them.
May you feel his love through them.
May his Spirit speak to your heart.
May these revolutionize your worth. 
Amen.

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION FROM GOD

You don't have to say the right words to be loved, I love you how you are.
You don't have to look the best for me to love you, 
I love your messy hair, 
your double chin, 
your skin color, 
how your voice sounds when you lose it,
your quirkiness. 
You are so beautiful and anyone would be so blessed to know you.
You have a wonderful personality which I made, and tremendous gifts and talents, which I gave uniquely to you.
I love every part of you. 
I love your smile and the indents in your face. 
I love your imperfections. 
I love you just how you are. 
I hear what you have to say, I want to hear you speak more. 
You are worthy of being loved by someone else.
You make the perfect friend. 
You make the perfect marriage partner. 


I pray that the Lord has spoken to you today through this... and he would fulfill every longing of yours by his Spirit. God bless you all.

Love, Tiki 
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